“Man! You could run a small country if you could just get some sleep.” —my therapist, a few months ago Dear friends. I am leaving the US on January 15th. I will spend two months in Europe working on visas and the logistical aspects of … Continue readingWhy I’m Moving to Germany*
I’ve been thinking for awhile about whether or not to write this post. My Victorian sense of propriety and pride urged me to forego the idea as tantamount to showing someone how the sausage is made, when what all of us ladies really want to … Continue readingIn Praise of Regulars: On the Virtue of Fidelity to Your Ho in a Post-FOSTA Sexscape
I always love meeting fellow femmes de la nuit–especially now that the powers that be are doing their best to keep us isolated from one another and without community. Tori, however, was a special treat, combining brains, beauty, and a wry wit. She and I … Continue readingI have a new playmate!
The corset is the ultimate statement of womanhood. While in eras past, the corset has exerted somewhat of a reign of tyranny, in the modern era, corsets are highly coveted and stylized. HOWEVER. As a designer and seamstress, I am horrified by most of the … Continue readingErnestine’s Corset Manifesto
Something rather wonderful has happened. Unbenknownst to me, a fairy followed me back from Paris. Sometime in that alchemical night when an old year dies and a new one is reborn—a night when virtually anything is possible—she alit on my ribs to rest her wings. … Continue readingLa Fée Verte de Montmartre
I remember it like it was yesterday. It was the Boston University forum on “Understanding Commercial Sex Policy: A Global and US Perspective.” Our champion and member of the Massachusetts Sex Workers Ally Network, Bobbi Taylor, had given a marvelous speech using quotations from members of SWOP-Boston … Continue reading“Why choose such a dangerous job?”
Incidentally, #MeToo. It’s not something I ever thought I would discuss here, because I have clients who still have Protestant guilt about taking advantage of me and I very much do NOT identify as a victim. And I’m not. At least, not in the egregious … Continue readingToday’s referendum on trauma